“I have horrible eye contact.”
“I’m so uncomfortable around strangers.”
“I HATE public speaking.”
“I have no idea how to live without alcohol.”
“I could never own my own business.”
Not all that long ago I believed these things to be true about myself. As true as the fact that my eyes are blue. If you tried to tell me otherwise, I would argue for my position and work to convince you that you were wrong.
“This is how I am.”
“This is who I am.”
“I know myself inside and out, you don't.”
The weird thing? I believed these things to be true with all my heart, yet today, not a single one is true.
- My eye contact is outstanding.
- I love meeting and connecting with people I’ve never met (this is a new realization).
- Public speaking is one of my very favorite things to do in my life and work.
- I’ve thrived without alcohol for over 12 years.
- I own a successful business.
So…was I ever what I believed myself to be in the past? It sure felt true and real.
I don’t know. My eyes are still blue. That hasn’t changed. Why have the other things changed?
The only thing I can come up with is that they were not inherent traits, like I thought they were. They were not part of my identity. Not part of my DNA.
Instead they were things my mind believed myself to be. I made it up based on my life experience and my own perception of reality. I made it up not realizing it was only a temporary experience formulated between my two ears. I made it up maybe because I was inexperienced with these things, not incapable of them.
I’m certain that I’m not finished breaking down the limitations of who I’ve believed myself to be. What will be next to fall? I can’t wait to find out.
What are YOU telling YOU about who you are?
Well maybe, just maybe, it’s not true.
I invite you to crack the door open to the possibility that you’ve got it all wrong.
You may be surprised and delighted with what you find.
And as always, I’m here to help you if you’re ready for professional guidance and support.